Let's just clear the air, No I am NOT pregnant, even though I got asked the question several times over the last week, apparently I've gained weight (eyes rollin so hard I'm getting a migraine (makes the recent weight LOSS scales and clothes DON'T lie - a bit anticlimactic to be frank lol).
Soooooooooooooooo, the title is self explanatory and here are Andy and my thoughts on this.
When we decided to get married, we pretty much had a lot of ground work covered. Except the colours, potential budget and where EXACTLY we would live. WE also knew that we could NOT invite everyone, so we decided to come up with an idea to include all of our loved ones both biological and chosen to make our days happy!
So as you know, This is OUR day, we decide what we want and we move from there. One thing that I am adamant about is ensuring that we have everything we ever wanted and can AFFORD on the day and the days leading up to our wedding. At this point, we know what we have to do to be able to enjoy the day comfortably and still LIVE comfortably in the months after.
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| Can make you or truly break you! |
For Andy and Heidi, this is OUR day, OUR party and I am stating this right here right now I PERSONALLY think regardless of etiquette or what is socially acceptable. HEIDI THINKS It is SUPER rude to ask for money ALONE. I'm sorry, but why not provide an option for your guests that's affordable for them? Who's wedding is it anyway? Why should you, after inviting your guests to YOUR event pretty much tell them you want them to pay for their plate.
Who decided to get married? US. Who's making MOST of the decisions? US, who should foot the bill PRIMARILY? US! Just saying...
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| You decided to get married, you pay for it! |
This is NOT to say that we will not be accepting monetary gifts. We're not stupid, we will accept WHATEVER you give us,within reason, because that's the thing, we are GRATEFUL. You give us a can opener and we'll be happy. But times HARD and everybody is crying out. So we want to be thoughtful and sensitive.
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| A stack from each guest would be HEAVEN SENT, but that's soooo unrealistic! (Photo by: Alan Levine) |
Check it, you impose a monetary gift ONLY clause. BOOM, you get 10 envelopes from your alll of your 150 guests. Well don't get mad if one of the 10 drops a HEAVY $20 bill in the envelope and says God Bless. Maybe even $5, wha ya dun ask for the money ya can't very well tell the people how much to give you. Yes there are guest guidelines to indicate exactly what amounts are 'ACCEPTABLE' but shouldn't that depend on your guests' pocket? And do you know? Someone is still going to buy you a waffle iron, clothes basket, pots and pans. So you might as well do the gift list option too, no?
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| It's raining dollar bills ya'll! |
We got some advice from one of our new friends @Alison Biscette-Glasgow 'Enjoy it, and my own tip: Know when too many cooks spoil the broth and when they don't. And listen to both your hearts at the end of the day.'
So our hearts say, give the people at least two options, YES YES YES we will accept ANY monies you give us (except Zimbabwean Dollars or Russian rubles LOL) BUT we would be EXTREMELY grateful for a nice gift as well. SO Cave Shepherd here we come, one stop shop, not too many expensive items and we pray that our guests see it fit to give us some lovely prezzies cause you love us so so much! But is it your duty to? Honestly I can't say we think that, nobody owes you anything in this life, but it sure is great to receive!
Phew, that one was a little tricky. One of my favourite Youtubers recently got married and she provided info for her subscribers to send her and her intended gifts. I don't know why but I thought that was a bit much. Although knowing the crazy Americans, they feel like she's their 'friend' and wanted to express the shared joy. So they probably ASKED where she was registered. This one is definitely a to each his own situation. And this is where we stand. You are FREE to do either or and if our guests can't afford either, please TELL US! Do NOT be embarassed, a card will do. But if wunna lie and say wunna can't and ya can, well that's just not right! LOLOL
Coming up next, the expensive add-ons that we (people in general) just HAVE TO HAVE!
Love,
Heidi xoxo
Oh my, I sit down to with a tamarind ball to eat, and read my girl blog and butt on my name! lol. Humbled.
ReplyDeleteI asked for monetary gifts. I got 98% compliance!! Wow! But my mother in law and another family friend bought gifts, crockery and a hot/cold jug that I adore!
I don't mind that at all! Glad we made you smile :)
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