Did I neglect to mention that Andy and I have almost one year before our wedding. Instant sweat scene.
So right off the bat, I will weigh in on Monday and so we'll see how much I've lost (or gained :(). I will say that my Auntie and I had a strenuous zumba session yesterday after the squats I did this week nearly took my life. Or at the very least my dignity when ascending or descending stairs!
Onto the juice, the meat! The inlaws. How do you deal?
Well given that we haven't revealed the intimate details of our day to either side, i'd say that The Aboabs and Bowens and extended family are equal in knowledge.
We've clued in our mothers and a few friends about some big plans we have to make the days and big day exciting, but most of the pressure is coming from our extended family and friends.
If you are reading this and you know you're not guilty, read on. If you are, read faster.
The running joke in Andy's fam is that i've only got one ring... So far. But I took it in my stride. My extended family had taken to trying to get to know Andy better. Suddenly, the enigma that is my babe is interesting and going to be a part of our family 'officially' and they want to come to the wedding too so of course some are making extra effort. No shame!
Well just this week, I read a blog that proved my theory. This bride noted that people she hadn't seen or heard for yeaaaaars, 'befriended' her on Facebook, called, texted, tweeted, CAME to her house. The lengths they'd go to.
But my family is special, when they see Andy, they smile and say hi, then ask me a week later, where he's work again? And wha he's do?
My point? You never know where a relationship could go, embrace the family member's new person. Be happy for them. Without ulterior motives.
So weddings are huge because generally people want somewhere to go, get free food and all about it after. So, we are going to make the wedding alllll about us! All Andy and Heidi everything, placemats, photos, billboards, stickers, if the flowerrls petals can hold a picture they will!
What I love about our families? We were both accepted! Andy dodged the interrogation, critique slash verbal hazing my fam puts most dudes and gals thru on first meeting. My family swears up and down to do it before wedding day. Hilarious!
The questions about the wedding have been peppering us since January! Any crashers, will be sorry. Guaranteed!
I have some verrry dread friends.
Nosy, outrageous statements like, doan go and get no babies as soon as yuh married. How he gine manage widout de mudda? Wunna gettin a mortgage?
When wunna gettin married? Suh long? Where? I hope at ... You invitin so n so? Wha I aint bout dat. I aint comin den.
Then there are the serious hardcore nosy questions. Who gi'in you way? Ya dress betta hol in dem big tings ya got! Andy family comin? From over in a way? How much people ya havin? Wunna got a house yet? Wait! I aint get muh invitation yet, u mussee aint want me dey.
Lord i'm being tried and tested!
Ahh well, I suppose every couple endures it. Have we ever done it to others? Not maliciously. Just out of curiosity and concern. But Andy and I are really family people and regardless of their quirks and weirdness, aint nuthin like family!
I think the biggest peeve we have is people asking us why we are waiting so long. Well wunna want the answer? Because we want to! We want an organized Debt FREE event, our way!
Happy, fun and peaceful without bailiffs or final notices three months after. I think that sums it up!
Moral: Leave the couple to their own devices. Unsolicited advice is not always welcome. But, it depends on the couple. Andy and I promise to be kind. Whatever your feelings remember, ever so welcome wait for a call!
Love
Heidi xoxo
Heidi hun, all that in the do!!
ReplyDeleteLuckily for me I did 92% of everything by myself, and I dint have them questions tuh deal wid, the wedding was decided in April or May and by November we did marry!
Well no such luck with us. But GOD!
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